Professional courtesy is important

divorceWhen parties are going through a divorce or family law matter, tensions can often be high between the parties.  It might be that one party wants the divorce and the other does not.  It might be that one party has discovered the other has been having an affair.  It might be that one party is unhappy with how the other is behaving in front of the children.  These are just a few possibilities, but the reasons why hard feelings may exist are endless.

These negative feelings can then result in one party desiring that their attorney share their displeasure.  While attorneys are certainly advocates for their clients, there is a time where professional courtesy is still important.

For example, take a situation where opposing counsel cannot attend a court date due to a scheduling conflict or family matter and the attorney asks your lawyer to agree to a short continuance.  In many instances, due to the anger between the parties, a party may be tempted to tell their attorney not to agree.  In most instances, this is a mistake.

Another example is where opposing counsel goes to you attorney to shake their hand and greet them in a friendly matter.  Some clients might resent this and expect that their attorney refuse the gesture and be hostile and adversarial.  In the same vein, it is almost always a mistake for your attorney not to be courteous as well.

At the end of the day, there is no question that hard feelings can exist between the parties in a divorce or family law matter.  There is also no question that any party going through a divorce or family law matter wants an attorney who advocates for them zealously on matters that affect their case.

At the same time, parties understand that attorneys are part of a profession. And as professionals, professional courtesy still has to be extended between attorneys.  In fact, if your attorney is not being courteous to opposing counsel on a professional level, it can actually have an adverse effect on your case if the judge realizes what is taking place particularly as it relates to the apportionment of attorneys’ fees.  If you desire a settlement, negotiations can become complicated where the attorneys on the case are not acting as professionals.

If you need help on a divorce or family law matter, Stange Law Firm, PC can help.  We have divorce attorneys who can help you if you call 1-855-805-0595.


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