Valentine’s Day is an important day for couples and especially for married couples, in particular. It is supposed to be a time of love and celebration. It is supposed to be a time of reflection. It can be a re-affirmation of the love that many have for one another.
For many couples, it might be a time to get away. It could be a time to spend some time away from the kids and focus on the relationship — even just for the day. For couples who are happily married, this is a big day.
For individuals who have gone through a divorce or family law matter, Valentine’s Day can be a tough day. For many, it can bring feelings of regret. It might also bring up bad memories about their past relationship. This might cause some to almost re-live these past events, which might result in anger resurfacing.
When you have children, it is important to think about the effects on them. A day like Valentine’s Day might result in children asking their parents who have split about what happened or what caused it. It might cause the children to have worry and regret about the future.
No matter the scenario, on Valentine’s Day, it is important that individuals think about the positive the best they can. By focusing on the positive, peace can be brought to the individual who went through the divorce or family law matter. And by focusing on the positive, the children can end up feeling a sense of ease and acceptance.
For many individuals, this might take time for them to be able to get to this place. It might take counseling. It might take moving on with one’s life as best as possible by staying active and busy. For some individuals, they might move on to a new relationship.
But, hopefully, this isn’t rushed or a rebound relationship. And when a new relationship begins, it is vital that the children’s feelings are kept into account and that introductions happen appropriately and slowly. Putting the kids first is always vital.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, how can you make sure that it is a positive experience for you and your kids? It is important think about this as February 14th approaches.
If you have or are going through a divorce or family law matter, Stange Law Firm, PC can help. You can call us at 1-855-805-0595.