According to Your Tango, the digital leader in relationships, the number one reason for divorce has to do with a lack of communication. Following close behind is infidelity and “not spending enough time together/not prioritizing the marriage.”
Another indicator that a marriage will fail is cold feet. Consistent with a UCLA study, 80 percent of respondents say that a bride’s pre-wedding jitters are a harbinger of divorce. If you have any doubts at all about getting married, go with your gut instinct and refrain from marriage. In the past, a couple would make vows to each other before getting married. Modern marriages today lack commitment. A way to test this commitment is to observe how your spouse treats you when circumstances are unfavorable like sickness, unemployment, or anything else that would make you less attractive.
Less surprisingly, 74 percent of experts polled agree that the top predictors of divorce are differing values around kids, money, or intimate relationships. Couples should get to know one another and have similar interests and core values before having intimate relations. By doing this, they establish the fundamental groundwork for a solid marriage that will weather the storms.
When asked whether divorce is harder on men or women, 65 percent of experts agree it is equally hard on everyone. Often, kids are put in the middle of a contentious divorce where there is fighting.
How much should divorcing parents share with their children? According to this study, 51 percent said, “any details that the kids can developmentally understand and integrate.” However, when going through a divorce parents are often told to refrain from saying anything negative about the other spouse. It has been proven to be harmful to children. There is a fine line between confiding in your children and knowing what might not be in the child’s best interest. If you have any doubts about this, contact an attorney.
How can couples ensure they don’t end up as a divorce statistic? “Sixty-five percent of experts agree the most effective way is by improving communication, followed by decreasing negativity.” You may have heard this before but now you can be sure that there are statistics to back it up.
The attorneys at Stange Law Firm PC focus their practice on family law and can advise you on how to get the most favorable outcome in your divorce and how best to deal with your children. Contact us at 314-963-4700 or St. Louis Divorce Attorneys in Missouri for a consultation.
Source: foxnews.com, Expert survey reveals the number one reason couples divorce, Oct. 16, 2012