Patience is a key virtue in family law and divorce litigation

8850383_SOn June 12, 2005, Steve Jobs, the then CEO of Apple, gave a commencement address at Stanford University.  Although Steve Jobs was not even a college graduate himself, this commencement address is widely heralded as one of the most inspirational speeches in recent memory about love, business and life.  Since the speech, individuals have dissected it, reviewed it, even made gifts and memorabilia out of what he said and used his words as a source of inspiration.

In a key part of the commence address, Steve Jobs said this:

[Y]ou can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

In this same vein, it can be very difficult going through a family law case.  Often, individuals are thrust into a divorce or family law case that they didn’t want.  Often, things happen in the case that do not make sense at the time.  From a practical or legal perspective, things can happen that can cause somebody to shake their head and not understand.

For some, when this happens, they can lose all hope.  They can begin to distrust the legal process.  They can began to distrust the judge or the guardian ad litem.  They can even begin to distrust their own attorneys.  When this begins to happens, individuals can often behave in a way that might become counter-productive to their case.  They want the dots to connect looking forward when it doesn’t work in that direction.

For others, they trust the wisdom of Steve Jobs.  They get that the dots do not connect looking forward, but backwards as Steve Jobs so eloquently explained.  So, when adversity hits, they continue to do the right thing.  They stay patient.  They don’t lose faith.  Versus getting cynical and distrustful, they stay positive and upbeat.  They have faith that it will make sense in the end.  This causes them to continue to make the right choices throughout their case and beyond.

If you are going through a divorce or family law case, Stange Law Firm, PC can help you.  We have attorneys in Missouri and Illinois who can help you should you decide to work with us.  You can call us at 314-963-4700 or at Saint Louis Divorce Lawyers.

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